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Self Love

I think we could all do with loving ourselves more. In this very competitive world we live in, it is very easy to not feel good enough. If we start feeling this way about ourselves then it will be hard to love ourselves in the ways we should. Self-love is very important because it motivates much of the positive behaviour we can have in our lives, while reducing harmful behaviours and negative habits we can get into. It empowers us to take risks to strive to be the best version of ourselves and to say no to things that don’t work for us, as we are there protecting ourselves. It’s a key component of building self-compassion; the more we learn to love ourselves the better we can be with ourselves. Self-love can help us take care of ourselves, lower stress, and strive for success, which are all super important things to help us live a happy, healthy, positive life.

As we increase our self-love, it can push us to take care of our own needs instead of being left at the back of all our decisions and choices. With more self-love, you will feel able to take care of yourself in so many different ways. You’ll learn to give to yourself, and in doing so, you will develop into the person you strive to be. You don’t need to feel bad about looking after yourself, it’s not about being selfish, it’s about putting yourself in the equation and finding that better balance in your life.  You’ll celebrate the beauty and freedom of being true to yourself, and you’ll gain a solidified sense of who you truly are, which will be amazing for you. But also, it will help you have more fulfilled relationships as well.

Self-love is so important for our health and our happiness. When we truly love and value ourselves, we open ourselves up to so many amazing things in life. We also allow ourselves to love everyone else better at the same time.

Here are 15 things you could do to help you love yourself:

1. Remember you are worth it

2. Develop new hobbies that you might love doing

3. Explore new places, even in your local area there might be places you just don’t know are there to enjoy

4. Hang out with your friends and family, being present in the moment

5. Keep a positive journal

6. Take time to watch the sunrise or sunset

7. Watch comedy movies

8. Get a massage, a facial, or a relaxing treatment

9. Laugh often

10. Move outside of your comfort zone and try new things

11. Tell the people you love that you love them

12. Take long walks or bike rides

13. Gaze at the stars

14. Forgive and move on from the negative past events in your life

15. Set clear boundaries between work and home life.


It isn’t always about just doing new things; it is often key to letting go of those toxic habits and behaviour patterns that have been limiting your self-love levels. There are also things you can give up, helping you to develop this deeper level of self-love:

1) Stop that habit of never feeling good enough

2) Stop saying negative things to yourself

3) Stop comparing yourself with others

4) Stop trying to make everyone happy except yourself

5) Give up the guilt.

Self-love, self-care, self-compassion. It may sound selfish and indulgent. But it’s essential to your mental health and well-being. And it doesn’t mean you have to always prioritise your needs over everyone else’s. If anything, having a good relationship with yourself is a selfless act. Because how you treat others is often a reflection of how you treat yourself. Having a good relationship with yourself is also the first step towards building your self-esteem.  Because if you’re always looking for external forces to affirm your sense of self-worth, chances are you’ll probably be disappointed. Instead, this reassurance should come from within.

Finally, there also may be other things that you are holding onto that are having a negative impact on how you feel. Memories from the past of when you felt inadequate, shame about something you did that you have not been able to forgive yourself for. Anger about what negatively happened in your life that you can’t seem to let go of. That drive to keep proving yourself to others, and feelings of rejection and loneliness, can also impact our ability to love ourselves too. Now is the time to challenge yourself to heal from the past and allow that self-love to grow.  There are several sessions on the app that can help you, go to the therapy sessions and try letting go, and you can also use the EMDR therapy session too. Don’t let the past limit you, choose to change today. Sara

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