Keeping our mood upbeat and bright is essential in protecting our mental health and finding ways to keep us more optimistic when dealing with life’s stresses, can help us. We all have to accept that there are things in life that we can’t change, this being the case getting stuck in the negative thoughts of these situations won’t help you. It’s time to challenge your mindset and get into this more positive way of thinking in as many situations as we can. We have to accept that there will always be some things that we can’t do this for, that is normal – if we had this positivity in every situation that would not be normal either. But what we need to do is try our best to keep the majority of things in that more optimistic way of thinking. Often when things aren’t making us happy, we can spend our time overthinking things about what’s happened and what may happen. This won’t help you or the situation, it will only lead you down the path of lowering your mood and increasing your stress levels. So, it is time to stop this path and choose to stay in that positive lane of thinking, helping to protect your mental health and keep you in a good place.
If something has not worked out for us and we are dwelling on that situation then now is the time to work to flip this from the negative to the positive. This is great in many situations as it can keep us going even through failure and disappointment. There is one thing we do know and that’s if we can’t change something then over thinking about it isn’t the answer. Now, we need to live with this belief system at the forefront of our minds. If we can hold this as a belief system, we can choose to grow and change through the disappointments and adversities in life. If for example we didn’t get that job we had been hoping to get, we need to flip this from negativity and failure, turning it into the fact that this just wasn’t meant to be and that the true job that you are destined to have is just around the corner.
I love this saying by Thomas J Watson
“If you want to increase your success rate, double your failure rate”
It can sometimes feel like the world is against us and we will never get to be the person we want to be or achieve what we hope to achieve, but let’s not forget that many of the most amazing people in our history didn’t always have it their way or were successful in everything that they did.
Albert Einstein did not speak until he was 4-years-old and did not read until he was 7. His parents thought he was “sub-normal,” and one of his teachers described him as “mentally slow, unsociable, and adrift forever in foolish dreams.” He was expelled from school and was refused admittance to the Zurich Polytechnic School. He did eventually learn to speak and read. Even to do a little math.
Charles Darwin gave up a medical career and was told by his father, “You care for nothing but shooting, dogs and rat-catching.” In his autobiography, Darwin wrote, “I was considered by all my masters and my father, a very ordinary boy, rather below the common standard of intellect.” Clearly, he evolved.
Thomas Edison’s teachers said he was “too stupid to learn anything.” He was fired from his first two jobs for being “non-productive.” As an inventor, Edison made 1,000 unsuccessful attempts at inventing the light bulb. When a reporter asked, “How did it feel to fail 1,000 times?” Edison replied, “I didn’t fail 1,000 times. The light bulb was an invention with 1,000 steps.”
These amazing people didn’t give up when things didn’t work or life was a challenge, they flipped things in their favour and kept going. I am sure we all know people with stories of challenge, adversity and success and now it’s time to be one of them. Worry and negativity get you nowhere, so it is time to let it go. If we throw ourselves into searching for the answer not just dwelling on the past, then we have used the flip of negativity or failure into a positive. Take the time to look at the things that lower your mood and find ways to flip them from negative to positive and take this new view to help you move forward more optimistically. Failure is just one step closer to success, so don’t let the downs of life limit you, because we can’t change the downtimes and disappointments but we can change how long we choose to stay in them. If we flip that situation and look for the positives, even if it is to only see that we are one step closer to success, we can keep going until we do achieve our dreams.
I used this positive thinking strategy to enhance my life, I didn’t speak till I was about age 7 and had learning difficulties, as well as speech problems, I left school early with only three very low qualifications. I didn’t let this limit me, I got an office junior job and worked my way to the top, then tried hypnotherapy and changed my life. I now have a degree and masters in the field and see myself as a high functioning dyslexic, I choose to keep trying and challenge myself to be that best version of myself.
This is your life and your choices; don’t let that negativity of what’s not working or going your way, keep you in that low mindset, flip it and look for the positives and just keep going. You have nothing to lose but everything to gain.
Have a great day, Sara x