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We looked at Gut Instinct last week which looked at the importance of connecting to our true self, allowing us to develop inner confidence, safety and security. The more you practice with small things the easier it will be to truly follow your gut instincts, but often gut instincts can be very profound over important issues. There are many stories of life and death situations where people have followed their instincts and saved their lives and those of other people, which is amazing.

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This week we’re going to look at intuition, but firstly how these differ? Gut instinct is a feeling and more of a sensation that can quickly appear at any time and if we consider the issue at hand and the different paths we could choose, we can start to be more connected to our gut instinct. Whereas, instinct is a process that gives us the ability to know something directly without conscious reasoning, bridging the gap between the conscious and subconscious parts of our mind.  Intuition is the ability to acquire knowledge without proof, evidence, or conscious reasoning, or without understanding how the knowledge was acquired. It’s like an inner voice, we don’t know why we are thinking this way and can’t quantify it either, it is our internal knowing. There are a great variety of different meanings, ranging from direct access to your unconscious knowledge, inner sensing, even god and inner insight to unconscious pattern-recognition.

Street.jpgIt’s safe to listen to your inner voice and hear your own intuition

We don’t have to reject scientific logic in order to benefit from instinct. We can honour and call upon all of these tools, and seek balance, and by seeking this balance we will finally bring all of the resources of our brain into action. Until about a 100 years ago science wasn’t even aware of the role of our unconscious, but studies now show that only 10 percent of the mind is dedicated to conscious thoughts, while 90 percent is dedicated to unconscious thoughts. Our intuition comes from our unconscious mind and with it being such a massive part of us, how could we possibly be making the best decisions for ourselves without including this non-conscious part of our mind? The same can be said for gut instinct our body is about 90 percent of us and our head about 10 percent so again how can we ignore this massive part of us when it sends us a signal?  But also, we must not forget our conscious part of our mind in all of this, in essence, we need gut instinct, intuition and rational logical reasoning to make the best possible decisions for ourselves, our lives, our work and our families.

For many of us we don’t like to always acknowledge this side of ourselves for the fear of being seen as silly or even foolish. The fear can lead us to mistrust the messages that our instincts send to us, and consequently we diminish our capacity to hear them. Our discomfort with the idea of relying on our instincts is based on prejudice that we would be more animal like to follow them. Whereas our fears over our using intuition is based on that fact that we would seem mad listening to something we can’t fully quantify or prove, that is just, a voice in our head.  Shouldn’t we have enough educational intelligence to logically reason our way through every situation we come across? The thing is, we are not like animals, we are animals. However, we are animals with the distinct advantage of having both instinct, intuition and reason at our disposal. We don’t have to reject any of these, we need to learn to embrace them all and honour what our mind, body and rational thought is telling us. When we do we honour who we truly are on every level.

Statue.jpgYou can truly be who you are by embracing your intuition, gut instinct and balancing it with rational thought

Now you can see the bigger picture and the need for all of these in your life, let’s look at how we can include intuition into our everyday life. Since we’ve spent a long time ignoring or dismissing this part of ourselves, how do we now successfully re-integrate it into our practical decisions? Firstly, we have to start to listen to ourselves, if you have read in the series of blogs on The Cat, how we can stop the worry, this clears our mind to be more in the moment. If we are more in the moment it will be easier to hear the intuition which is coming to us and then it’s time to combine the final aspect I mentioned earlier: reason. While your unconscious mind searches through the past, present, and future, connecting with hunches, feelings and emotions in a nonlinear way, your logical reason can help pull this all together. By utilising your conscious expertise, logic, listening to your intuition and your gut instinct you are connecting to every part of you and perhaps in doing this, you can simply feel happy to be connected to who you truly are. So, in turn your confidence will grow you will feel more safe and secure to value and trust who you are on every level.

Here are some ideas to help you connect to the internal voice and allow its guidance into your everyday life. Keep a journal, writing your thoughts and feelings down on paper, even if you don’t think you have much to say. It will help the non-conscious mind open up, it doesn’t have to make sense to you, you can just write what words or thoughts come to mind. It may stir up emotional response too and you can get your gut instinct involved in this as well. It not a test, so you can turn off your inner critic and the worry habits we spoke about earlier, both of these patterns are unproductive for you. We don’t need to rationalise away those voices within, but it’s time to listen without judgment, allowing the inner dialogues to happen without fear or ridicule. Trying to do this with the kids shouting and screaming the TV on full, the dog barking is not going to work, find a quiet moment or solitary place. A place and time where you can allow emotions to flow freely is an imperative part of finding and retaining the building blocks of intuition, even if it’s while out walking the dog you can stop for a few minutes, it doesn’t need long, and just jot down a few notes. Using these ideas will aid you in creating a new, deeper relationship with the self, help clarify that inner voice, and allow you to bring your true instinctual awareness back into your rational everyday life.

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Over time this will become more natural and effortless for you, I guess you know what’s coming next, practice makes perfect as always. Habits always win, it the nature of who we are.

Thanks for dropping by Sara x